“So, he cheated on you? Boo hoo! Just head back on Tinder and he will be last week’s news.”
There was a moment of silence when this was added after the obligatory “I am sorry he cheated on you, are you ok?” speech, I said to my friend, Gianna. Well, everyone is Tindering, why not just jump on the bandwagon and have some fun while you’re at it, I expressed. Gianna was taken aback by the suggestion; especially since she had met her man on Tinder. This got me thinking as I headed home, “Is it really hard to manage a relationship in today’s technologically savvy world?”
Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against these location based dating apps. I met my partner through a dating app two years ago. Downloading the app was definitely my best decision, as it shaped my future. But, after that dinner conversation, it got me thinking, perhaps there is more to this situation than meets the eye. Technology has become an integral part of our lives. To the point that many would rather deal with difficult situations from behind a screen, than facing the person.
We have become indifferent to the notion of long term relationships. We are willing to throw in the towel on a relationship, because with a swipe or a few clicks of a button we are able to hook up with someone else. It seems instant gratification may have just spilled into our relationships as well.
Don’t we want to try to work on the relationship and salvage the memories we created over the past months (eight months to be exact in Gianna’s case). Questions and various suggestions were thrown around on our WhatsApp group chat, but it only got Gianna more confused (and defensive). I understand, finding out that your significant other has cheated on you must be painful, but if you love this person, work it out, right? Sounds like a pretty simple step. Unfortunately, that was not the case for Gianna.
The situation got complicated when she said that her only proof of his “infidelity” was that he was on Tinder five minutes before she opened the app to show her mom how she met him. So there was no real discussion on why he was on the app. For all we knew, it could have been a coincidence as he may have been showing the app to his father! (I know it’s slightly stretched …). But, really why jump to such a conclusion without having a chat about what happened. Have we forgotten how to have conversations that don’t revolve around internet jargons and emoticons?
With today’s advanced technology and fast paced lifestyle, we are in a constant lookout for easy access to everything and anything. From our smartphones, we are able to shop at our favourite stores; order dinner and have it delivered to our houses; or even have our bills paid. Today, we have the ability to communicate and collaborate with anyone from our own bedroom. Technology has definitely propelled us further into the future, but has this progression made us lose sight of the person next to us?